There are few things I get worked up about. It is my belief that life is too short to sweat the small stuff. I like giving people the benefit of the doubt. All in all, I think I'm pretty easy going. However, there are somethings I will not tolerate. One of these being people being downright rude.
Wednesday afternoon I went to my school's library to read a massive amount for my Introduction to History course. The material is rather dry so I wanted to concentrate the best I could. I made my way to the third floor which is the quietest of all the floors. The lack of computers may or may not have to do with that. Anyway, instead of walking all the way towards the back as usual, I sat in what most consider the "front" part of the library. I'm not entirely sure why I decided to make that change yesterday. It was quiet. Instead of these separated desks that are in the back there were these four seater tables. I suppose I wanted a little more space to spread my reading material. So I sat in the "front" part with the tables. For the first hour this section of the library was so quiet you could hear a pin drop. My neighbors in other tables were also emerged in their reading. One girl was typing away on her cute red Dell netbook.
Then the trouble began. There are tables closer to the staircase, not too far from where I was sitting. From that general vicinity I started hearing people. It would not have been a problem if they had been studying. No. These people were laughing and talking rather loudly. Not jut loud for a library. Just loud in general.
I was getting irritated. Here I was, trying to understand why European philosophers all of a sudden decided that history should be studied in a linear fashion as opposed to circular, and these incredibly rude people were being loud. I looked up and my neighbors were visibly annoyed as well. I had to do something.
I got up and followed the source of the noise. I saw it was four college aged guys laughing and horsing around. I walked up to them in a stride that I hoped demonstrated I meant business.
"Excuse me."
They all stopped talking. As if the mute was on. There were no books on their table.
"Could you keep it down? We can hear you from all the way over there." I pointed towards the other tables.
"Sorry."
I turned around to walk back to my seat. I added before I walked away "Keep it to a whisper; this is a library."
I heard one of these guys say "She's right." As if they didn't know they were in a damned library.
I sat back down, feeling pretty good about what I had just done. I hoped my neighbors appreciated my gesture to keep the silence. I returned to my reading.
Less than ten minutes later, they started up again. I heard female voices this time. Some others had joined them. It did not sound as if they were doing anything remotely productive.
My blood began to boil. Was this Chuck E. Cheese? No, this is a fucking college library. Did these people think they were in a cafeteria in middle school?
I slammed my pen down and walked over there again. Their group had grown to quite a few people, including three girls.
"Obviously you don't know what 'be quiet' means," I snarled. "Have some common courtesy; people are trying to get work done." I may have gotten a little loud. I was absolutely pissed.
I got another loud and insincere "sorry" from these people. Then I went to the bathroom. As I came out I heard one of the girls.
"We should be quiet unless you want to be... rawr." She was addressing her little friends. She made something that sounded like a cat sound.
I did not respond. I felt that I would get aggressive if I did. The last thing I wanted to do was to throw punches at a library. And then get kicked out.
Thankfully they left soon after. I left soon too. These other people came around and were talking. Granted, they were working on a group project and they were speaking quietly. The these two girls sat across from me and were making small talk. I felt the universe was against me reading and muttered under my breath "Fuck this!" and packed my stuff up and left.
It's not so much the Chuck E Cheese people were being loud at a library. I was angry because they had no respect for other's people space. It was obvious that people around them were concentrated on their reading, their papers, etc. There is a reason why there are libraries and why there are cafeterias and lounges. Even after I had told them politely they were distracting others, they continued to be obnoxious. It's hard to believe that college aged people still act like they need to be disciplined. I have honestly never encountered such inconsiderate, rude, disrespectful, immature asswipes.
I did what I could for my crusade of silence in the library. If they had stayed longer I would have had to call security. I would have done so. I'm not going to let a lack of courtesy from despicable people win. It's not about being quiet anymore. It becomes about so much more. In a society where a lot of manners do not seem to matter anymore, I wanted to make a difference even as small as keeping people quiet in a library.
I take comfort in the belief that karma exists. What goes around, comes around. Silly library people.
I shared this story with my advanced expository writing class. We all had a laugh at those peoples' expense.
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3 comments:
I'm so GLAD I'm not the only one who gets easily pissed when rudeness still persist. I would have done what you did - at least, in my head. But I applaud you for being brave and actually going up to those idiots to give them a piece of your mind! They're obviously the slackers, the ones who will never get anywhere because all they probably care about are beer ponging and which one of their buddies just got laid. And excuse my bluntness, but those three horrid girls are absolute bitches. As you said, karma will get them one day to not only spank the bejesus outta them, but to also tear out a chunk of their lazy and loud butts and chew it right in front of their faces.
Again, please excuse the graphic imagery of my diction; while reading your post, I totally felt your anger. It really makes me wonder if some people are just really rude by nature and are therefore incapable of simple courtesy, be it on the train or in the library.
But in any case, I just wanted to say this:
GO LILY!!!!!! ;)
Oh man, I don't blame you for being pissed off. When you're doing something that requires concentration and focus- ESPECIALLY when you're in a library, of all places, it's really frustrating to have to deal with people being loud and distracting. And they weren't even studying! Honestly, sometimes I don't understand people. If you're in a library, where you know people go so that they can study and get work done, why would you just go in there and have a loud conversation with your friends? That's just rude and stupid. *headdesk*
I'm impressed with the fact that you were direct with them. I always have this conflict when I'm in situations like those- part of me wants to go up and get all angry New Yorker on their asses, but then part of me feels awkward and nervous and hates drama and conflict so much that I can't bring myself to say anything. But sometimes you have to say something, or else you'll never solve the problem- even though it took you two attempts to get them to shut up. If they had been studying, that would have been one thing. If they didn't realize how loud they were being and sincerely apologized and then shut up, okay. But they not only disrespected other people who were trying to study and do work, but they didn't even care that they'd disturbed people's concentration, and that pisses me off. Ugh. And WORD to karma- one day it'll come back to bite them in the ass, haha.
Hey, Liliana.
I believe I shared one of my angry library stories with the class about the time I actually grabbed a reference librarian and bullied her into asking a kid to stop talking--he was holding tutoring sessions which involved extensive, highly audible explanations--in the *reading room*!
I was researching on a library computer last spring when some "quality of the library" survey thingy popped up. I took it and I took the time to berate the reference librarian who was interrupting me with her explanations of how the databases worked to a student sitting several workstations away from me. She was speaking as if she were in a crowded bar on a Friday night. What is that?
What that is, really, is someone who has become accustomed to the fact that the library is often seen as a meeting place instead of as a place where people go to concentrate. I often try to excuse the noisiness at BC's library as an extension of living in such a noisy city. Surely, I think, the patrons are so accustomed to the sounds of sirens and people screaming and car stereos blaring, that they all but tune out the occasional human voice. This kind of excuse or explanation just doesn't cut it. Most of us are in that library because we need to be in a completely noise-free zone, right?
So. My favorite library story took place on the third floor toward the back, where there are both tables and study carrels. I was at a carrel near the window desperately trying to memorize a Shakespearean sonnet for my grad class in just that subject. In order for me to memorize something, I have to hear my own voice repeating the words again and again in my own head. This requires silence.
As I was just beginning to get the first stanza of Sonnet 60, "Like as the waves make towards the pebbled shore...," two women sat down at a table and began to pray, out loud and at length, for success on their upcoming exam. Huyello? I let that go; I figured it was just what they did before they got down to business. But then they started quizzing each other and discussing their class. When I approached them and suggested that get a study room or go to the Library Cafe, they looked at me with complete dismay and exclaimed, "Are you telling us we can't talk?!"
"Yes," I said, "I am. This is a library. I could hear pages turning before you sat down."
They were none too happy, but they did get up and leave. I was one of many people who'd been sitting there in silence before they showed up. I think my pointing out that they were being disruptive made them look around at all of the people who were desperately trying, in silence, to concentrate.
Or maybe I'm just mad intimidating, but I don't think so.
Next time, Liliana, hold your ground! Go get a librarian! Don't relinquish your rights as a student to actually f***ing study! Ya hear me?
I'm enjoying your blog. We must have a discussion about Ugly Betty! I record that show and watch it religiously, but not without certain reservations. Hmmm....
Take care, Liliana. See you after the break...
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